Yes, holding someone in your arms is intimate. However, the very nature of water itself is intimate. Put two and two together and you have very intimate indeed.

But, intimate does not mean sexual, erotic or provocative. Most often we don’t stay long enough in ‘that space’ to feel what we really feel, what intimacy really means. Being aware of ones personal space, energy as well as of our borders and boundaries is part of an aquatic practitioner’s refinement I would say.

Holding space in an intimate way has a purity and a longed for familiarity that is rarely experienced in the speed of the every day. Some human relationships don’t reach this state of intimacy¬†in a lifetime even if they are sexual relationships.

Upon immersing ourselves in water it enters us in every way possible. It seeps through our skins and reaches the depths of our souls. There is little one can do to resist the permeation of water. Slowly but steadily it will reach, uncover and dissolve all perceived fears or resistances we hold on to.

I observe that when small children enjoy the water they also begin to suck on their fingers and the physical pleasure they receive from this is very evident. I intuit some sort of connection between the early sexual developmental phase of the child and water. The gut seems to relax most quickly and the need to experience the pleasure of release takes place in water too.

And yes, the form of aquatic body work called Water Dance was birthed from the intimacy of a man and woman seeking to go deeper into their co-creation.

How do you sit in your intimacy? What is your relationship to water? Mine is certainly in the early stages of discovery for I am seeking true presence in my intimacy with others and a deeper sense of communication that goes far beyond words.